Love?

Hi all it's me again.

Things have been pretty stable for me recently, and nothing has really caught my attention. So.... the topic that i'm gonna talk about today, is.... love! Yeah not how to achieve love but instead my honest opinion about it.


So, i posted this post on a topic named 'what is love?' last year (yeah i go to forums)


Personally, i feel that there are 2 possible answers. :


It exists. I have seen people get from being friends, to dating, to getting married. Although i have never been in a relationship, i often hear about how people exclaim that they love someone so much that they would die for them, etc. 
This takes some big guts to say. How many of us would actually die for someone? Well love can actually explain that. 
Moreover, i am a Christian. I'm sure all of you have heard how Jesus died for mankind so i would not go through that again. 
If two people do not actually love each other, and that they got together just for fun/entertainment, what keeps them together? I often wonder if love between people would run out. I have read and seen couples who are married for over 50 years, and they still look pretty loving to me. 


It doesn't exist. When people say they love someone, do they just like how that person look or do they actually fall for the person's attitude? 
Are they in love with the person's appearance or actually in love with the person her/himself? So far, no one has been really able to describe love. 
As i have stated earlier, i have not been in a relationship, so i would have no idea. When we 'love' someone, are we just driven by our hormones( Wanting to have sexual intercourse with that person)?Or perhaps we are just bored, and are trying to find something to do to fill up our time. 
I do strongly believe that whatever the human mind set's it willpower to, that human would believe that it can be done is true. So, are we really loving that person, or are we just living in a delusion created by our own minds that we got from hollywood that we are in 'love'?


In conclusion, i would like to go with love exist. This is because i feel that there is a special bond formed between two persons when they are actually in love. This is the only logical reason for any long lasting marriages. 
I believe that small acts of love would slowly ensure the continual growth and strengthening of this bond, while being unfaithful, dishonest, etc would weaken it. Therefore, i believe that love does actually exist and each person has a 'container' of unlimited love to give out. This would mean that each and every one of us are able to love someone to the fullest, if only we want to. 
However, each 'love capsule' can be only filled with other people's love only. Therefore, i believe that it is impossible to love yourself, ( To the extend of dating yourself, etc.) if what i just said makes sense. 




Just my two cents worth. Thank you for your time.








As i've stated up on top, i ended with saying that love exists. However, there are many types of love. I shall try to give you my honest opinion about it.


1. Heavenly love
This type of love is so pure and saturated. It is indeed the ultimate form of love, and it can't be given out by any other humans. Only a heavenly being would be able to give it out. This love, is much much more than giving without expecting anything back. It's almost the 'highest' form of love. One way to imagine this love is to picture all the other types of love, then multiply it by 100. This type of love isn't just 'unconditional' or 'never-ending'. I repeat again, it's definitely much more than that. It's about loving someone, even if it isn't returned. It's about loving someone who hates you. It's about loving someone who persecutes you. It's about loving someone that insults you. You get it. It's such a beautiful thing, and yet many appreciate it.


John 3:16 "For God so loved the world, He gave His one and only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life."

Famous verse, yet many don't believe in it. He send his one and only son to earth,just to die. Just because he loves us, he is willing to let his son go through such suffering and pain.God actually cares. Wouldn't it be easier just to destroy earth, then create it once again? All the misdeeds and wrong ideas would be destroyed. Never to be seen again. Wouldn't it be so much easier for God to not care? Instead, out of His love for us, He is willing to let his Son go through all that just so we can be saved. Just out of love.

2.Parental love

I believe that this is quite self-explanatory. I trust that all of you have read stories about how parents sacrifice their lives for their child, be it sheltering them during an earthquake, or pushing them away from an oncoming car. Parents are wonderful beings. They are the only relatives that anyone has that would go all out for you. They would take a bullet for you. No matter how their child turns out to be, they would still want the best for them. Even if you're the most despicable criminal on earth, your parents would still see a glimmer of hope in you. Your parents' love is so deep. They can forgive you for insulting them. They can forgive you for beating them. They can forgive you for abandoning them. 


However, this love is not perfect. At times, they will not be there for you. At times, they will say things that would hurt you. At times, they would do things that would hurt you. Yet, despite all this, deep down inside, you still can feel their love for you. You know that they still care for you. You know that they still want you back in their arms. You know. You feel it. 


That is why parental love is such a strong form of love. It's almost comparable to that of a bond between your parents and yourself. A bond which can hold on to you both. A bond so strong that nothing on this earth, not even death, can break.


3.Mutual love

This is the most common type of love. Found everywhere. However, it is also often misunderstood. Well it's more misinterpreted than misunderstood. Many people are so clouded about this subject. This is partly the fault of hollywood, with their 'perfect ideology' of what love should be. Should the hottest boy get together with the cutest girl? As mentioned in my forum post, When people say they love someone, do they just like how that person look or do they actually fall for the person's attitude? Regardless, this form of love is one of the 'more difficult' ones to get. To be able to attain this form of love, you would have to put in a certain amount of effort in your relationship with your partner, and your partner has to contribute equally. Without this giving and receiving, this relationship would never work.

However, even when it's name has been tarnished so many a times, this form of love is still very much powerful. When you're able to see the true form of mutual love, you'd be able to appreciate it. Even though i still do not have the privilege to experience it first hand, i had the honour to witness it from afar. My parents have been married for quite a while now, and they still seem pretty strong together. They rarely have any quarrels and they joke around alot. 

I've read somewhere before that true love has no boundaries. Nothing can separate you from the one you love. Be it the oceans or the sky, if there's true love, there's a way. I believe that mutual love is very very misinterpreted, but once an individual has embraced it, and finds out who he really loves, he shall attain true happiness, for love leads to happiness.

4.Self love

Arguably the most difficult form of love to achieve, self love is a wonderful thing. The reason that it is difficult to get is because, no one would be able to give it to you. Unlike the other forms of love stated above, self love, as the name suggests, is attained when you love yourself. Sounds easy enough? Not so, when you have problems such as depression, insomnia, or other illnesses. Self love is based around respecting yourself. How are you supposed to love others when you can't even love youself? If you intentionally cause harm to yourself, be it cutting ot bruising, would you do the same to others?

If you can turn a blind eye to the path to achieving self love, the reward is truly overwhelming. You would be able to know what's good for you, able to differentiate the rights and the wrongs. All this because you know that you yourself, is as important as anyone else, if not more important. However if the self respect is not there, nothing good can come out of you. You would hate everything around you. As compared to the person with self love, you will not appreciate the sun, your bed, your family, your friends, your job, your belongings, your face, your emotions. Everything will seem pointless to you. 

That is why, self love is the most important one out of everything here. Without it, you will not be able to love anyone else, let alone live life to the fullest. 

Well, those are my thoughts about the different types of love. As far apart they may seem, they are all intertwined together in an elaborate puzzle. The only thing that i have to comment, is that one must dare to go forward and experience it. For if you just read and think, nothing is going to happen. This applies to myself as well :/. 

To be honest, i feel that having a relationship in this period of my life is pointless, and frankly, just a complete waste of time and money. Not to be a wet blanket, but the girl that you're with now would probably not be your future wife. Although it would be comforting to have someone to talk to, someone to cuddle with, there are certain things that are slightly more important. Maybe all of this is just jealous talk hehe. 

Now to add something that is actually relevant to the topic, i feel that love is a vital part of life. Nobody can make it without the power of love boosting them on. It's impossible to go on without love. Just take 2 minutes off and take time to think of the things close to you. Think about the things you love. Think about your parents, your friends, siblings, etc. Are you loving them enough? Is your relationship with them healthy? If not, do something about it, before it all becomes too late.

Cya,

JerBunny.